Trauma Bonding
Today, I want to talk about a topic that's often not talked about enough:
Trauma Bonding.
Have you heard of it before? If not, let me break it down for you.
Trauma bonding is a bond that forms between a person and their abuser (could be a partner, a family member, or even a friend) as a result of repeated trauma or abuse. This bond can often be very strong and hard to break, even though the relationship is harmful.
So, how does this happen?
Well, it usually starts in childhood. Childhood trauma can create an attachment to the person causing the trauma, making it difficult for the victim to leave the situation. This can also result in feelings of low self-esteem, anxiety, and depression.
Step 1: Childhood Trauma
This is where it all begins. Childhood trauma can be anything from physical or emotional abuse, neglect, or even just growing up in an unstable environment. This trauma can have long-lasting effects on a person's mental health and can make them more susceptible to forming trauma bonds later in life.
Step 2: Attachment to Abuser
The victim may start to feel an attachment to their abuser as they are the only source of comfort in an otherwise traumatic situation. This attachment can be reinforced by the abuser's occasional acts of kindness, which can lead the victim to believe that the abuser actually cares about them.
Step 3: Dependency
The victim may become dependent on the abuser for their sense of security, which can make it even harder for them to leave the situation. This dependency can be reinforced by the fear of being alone or of the unknown, making it seem like staying in the abusive relationship is the only option.
Step 4: Confusion and Self-Blame
The victim may start to question their own worth and blame themselves for the abuse, making it even harder for them to leave the situation. They may feel like they deserve the abuse or that they can't do any better.
Step 5: Repeat Cycle
The victim may start to experience a repeat cycle of abuse and reconciliation, making it even harder for them to leave the situation. This cycle can reinforce the trauma bond, making it even more difficult to break free.
It's important to note that trauma bonding can happen in any type of relationship, not just romantic ones. It's also important to seek help if you or someone you know is in an abusive relationship, as breaking the trauma bond can be difficult, but not impossible.
I hope this has shed some light on the topic of trauma bonding and how it can come from childhood trauma. If you have any questions or want to learn more, feel free to reach out!
