What Constitutes a Happy Sex Life?
Sex Therapy Explained
What constitutes a happy sex life?
Whether you’ve been in your relationship for 30 days or 30 years, you may have concerns about your sex life together as a couple.
Having a happy sex life has been linked to everything from better heart health to better relationship health. But what constitutes a happy sex life?
Some people believe a good sex life is based on how often the two of you have sex. Others believe multiple or mutual orgasming is the key.
In truth, none of these things are vital to a happy sex life.
There’s no magic number when it comes to quantity. What does matter is that each partner feels safe and comfortable, and they’re having pleasurable sex.
Sex Therapy helps you improve your sex life, and also improve the quality of your relationship.
Being honest about your sexual experience with your partner can make you feel vulnerable, exposed, or embarrassed. It is, however, a good way to get the conversation going about your sexual needs so they can be addressed and met.
Here are 3 things sex therapy can help you with:
Explore foreplay and after play
No one’s sex life remains static. In the early stages of your relationship, you may have sex several times a day or week. Later on, how often you have sex may lessen for many reasons, including the addition of children into your lives, stress, and scheduling.
Libido also changes over time. Scheduling sex may sound like a turnoff, but for many couples, it sets a framework they can count on and look forward to.
It’s important that you establish a schedule you both agree to. This may require reprioritizing other tasks in your life and setting them aside for each other. It may also require compromise if one of you wishes to have sex more often than the other.
Scheduling sex also reduces the fear of having one of you repeatedly turn down the other when not in the mood.
Set the stage all day
If sex is on your agenda for the evening, build up each other’s anticipation and desire during the day. You can do this by sending each other sexy texts or photos. Consider sharing passages from a sexually explicit novel you both enjoy.
Build up your own sense of anticipation and arousal by letting your mind wander to the night’s forthcoming activities, too.
Experiment
There’s a vast array of sexual activities you may explore as a couple, provided that both of you are comfortable. These can include everything from the use of toys and erotica to bondage sex, tantric sex, and more.
Edgy or kinky sex isn’t, however, the key to a happy sex life. Mixing it up can be as simple as wearing different types of clothing or choosing new locations to have sex.
It may also include the use of new positions and types of sex, such as oral sex, mutual masturbation, and anal sex.
Experimenting with new ways to give you both pleasure can be a wonderful experiment in couple’s closeness, provided you discuss and agree on the things you’ll try.
Sex therapy gets on the road to addressing health concerns that might be hurting your sex life
As people age, bodily changes may make sex painful or difficult.
Menopause may cause vaginal atrophy and dryness.
Changes in hormonal levels can include reductions in testosterone production. This can reduce sexual desire and cause erectile dysfunction.
Medications may diminish libido or make it harder to orgasm.
Benefits of having a happy sex life:
Sexual satisfaction has been linked to multiple health benefits. The type of sex you have may affect the benefits you get. Here are just some of the benefits:
Working on your sex life can increase feelings of desire and improve libido.
Sex releases feel-good hormones like endorphins, helping to alleviate stress.
A happy sex life can deepen your feelings of intimacy with your partner.
People who enjoy sex with their partner experience increased happiness and more satisfaction with life.
Vaginal sex increases the flow of blood to the vagina, reducing vaginal atrophy.
Vaginal sex can also help strengthen vaginal muscles, reducing pelvic floor dysfunction.
Frequent ejaculation may help prevent prostate cancer.
Takeaway
A happy sex life takes communication and work. Sexual satisfaction is one way to increase overall enjoyment with life. It also helps couples stay connected emotionally.
